My Jewish Child Just Came Out as LGBTQ+: A Guide for Parents
Practical tools rooted in Torah values, love, and hope - from a Licensed Mental Health Counselor
Yes, This Is Hard. And You're Not Alone.
If you’re reading this, it likely means your child just came out to you as LGBTQ+—lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, or another identity—and you’re feeling overwhelmed, confused, scared, threatened, or even heartbroken.
Take a deep breath.
You're not a bad parent for having complicated feelings. This wasn’t part of the future you imagined for your child, and it’s okay to need time to process. Maybe you're wondering:
“Is this really happening?”
“Is it just a phase?”
“What does this mean for our family? Our community? Their Jewish future?”
“Will my child suffer forever?”
Many parents, especially in religious communities, find themselves asking the same questions. You’re not alone. And more importantly: you don’t have to have all the answers to be a good parent. You just need to stay connected to your child.
You may not be ready to fully accept or understand everything today, and that’s okay. But showing love even while you’re still learning sends a powerful message: “I may not know exactly how to walk this path yet, but I’m walking it with you.”
Sections Include:
(Briefly) Understanding LGBTQ+ Terms
It’s Not Just a Phase—and It’s Not Something to Fix
Why Your Support Is Critical
How to Start Supporting Your Child Today
Reconciling with Religious Beliefs
Support for You, Too
Trusted Resources for Jewish Parents
Final Thoughts: From Love, Everything Follows
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